Hilary,
I can get the value to display as described on this :https://www.premierpointsolutions.com/training/help-and-how-to-articles/get-infopath-to-display-lookup-column-value-not-id
The problem is that it will not change, hide, etc at all no matter what I try rule wise and selects the first ID on the list that it is looking at. The BIG issue is that the stuff I am working with (inherited) has a user who had no idea what they were doing, but are so far down the rabbit hole that it is hard to get back out. example - they literally have 30 lookups on one list. UGhhhhhh to say it politely. Like I said though, I can get the ID to display the proper text, but cannot figure out why I cannot make it NOT show until the right selection happens on the dropdown