Sorry, not much help here. I have the exact same problem. I tried both the C# and C++ examples and all the form design\customization options are disabled. With the C++ project (HostIP), I get the following error:
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Command cannot be performed at this time, it is either not supported or disabled
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OK
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This seems to be the same behavior that you get when you open a form in InfoPath. You can't edit the form. However, from within InfoPath all I need to do is click the 'Design this Form' button and I can then make changes.
Does anybody know how to embed an EDITABLE InfoPath control from within a Windows Application? Thanks in advance for any tips! I'll post if I find anything out...