You'll need to add a filter for your first issue - when you select the field in the field picker there is a button that says Filter data, you can use that to add a filter. If this is a list form and you want to use it to edit multiple items, that is a selection you can make when you first set up the form - if you start from InfoPath designer, select SharePoint List for the template type, you should see a checkbox to allow edit of multiples.
Hilary Stoupa
