Thanks for the info! :)
I have figured it out. what i wanted to have happen was the following.
a drop down list that populates from a sharepoint list, the list is a managers list, so the list changes often, this allows me to update via sharepoint my list of managers, currently 114 different people. My managers data connection receives the name email address and location columns from the list.
What i was having issues with was as simple as a click. I was clicking on the "sub directory" (i guess thats what it is called) of the data connection, instead of the root directory, so if the data connection was carrying over 3 rows of data i was only able to choose one.
I repaired my drop down list to gather information from the root directory of the data connection (this was where my original question was leading) so that i could set my values and display options, i set the value to the "email address", and the display to the "name". I then created a submit email data connection and have the to field of the data connection connect to the drop down list. that way when i am filling out the form i can choose different people from my 114 items in the list and have a button that will email the chosen person as well as save it to the sharepoint document library.
now my issue is getting the value to change back from the email address to the name.
In other words, I would like a text box that displays the name of the drop down instead of the email address, since the text box will only show the value of the drop down... lol im consufing myself. :)