ok sorry for not explaining well enough.
This has nothing to do with InfoPath.
When you create a new Contact List type in WSS the default editing field is "Last Name" and it won't let you cahnge it from what I can tell.
I wanted to know if there is any way I can set a different field as the default "link to edit" field
no worries if noone knows...I might just code a new contact list type.