Are you asking how to make the multiple select list box look like the bottom one instead of the top one? If so, then the answer is not easily. There isn't a way out of the box to do that unless you want to build it on your own. I imagine there is probably a way to do it with 2 list boxes, 2 buttons and a lot of rules, but I would recommend just sticking with the top option.
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