But if you just double click the xml file that you have locally, does it open with InfoPath? Or in IE as xml?
I think you may need to reassociate xml files to open with IP. You can do this by opening InfoPath, then, under Tools / Options, select the checkbox under Microsoft Office under the General tab that tells IP to check to see if it is set as the default xml editor. The next time you open an xml file, you should be prompted to set IP as your default editor....