I assure you I would not kid in a forum such as this.
As I said, there is no way to directly interact with a control from the code. An InfoPath form is a visual representation of an XML document, and you can indirectly interact with controls (get and set values, add and delete rows from repeating sections) by interacting with the form's XML. Some changes to form controls' visual properties can be accomplished through the use of conditional formatting in a form template's settings.
I and many others on this forum have found InfoPath to be quite a handy and versatile tool. I recommend having a poke around this forum to see examples of its uses and capabilities.